I caught up with someone last night that I hadn’t seen in a while and we were discussing life and what had been happening recently in our respective ones. We got to talking about relationships and age and how we both feel very differently about them as we have both got older – we are no longer looking for heady excitement as we did when we were younger but rather something more stable and comfortable.
She said to me “You know there is a word, which seems very old fashioned these days but which really should be used instead of love. Because love really isn’t enough is it? And that word is cherish.” To cherish is to treat with affection and tenderness, to hold dear, to treasure, but in this graceless age that we live in can we honestly say that we cherish each other? Love can be heart stopping, can give you a rush of blood to the head but the words ‘I love you’ have become a throw away commodity, overused and meaningless in many ways and so what do we have when the breathless rush has subsided?
If we are lucky we will still have love – not the mad , exciting sort but the comfortable, safe and stable variety and we then have to make a decision. We have to decide if this is the person that forsaking all others we want to be with, the person with whom we are entwined inseparably, the person that we cherish, treasure and hold dear. And if the answer to that is yes then we are truly blessed.
Cherishing is about caring, appreciating and respecting completely. We should cherish our children, our families and our true friends – appreciate them for who and what they are and be thankful for the chance that has been afforded to us. To love and cherish is the best feeling in the world and to have it reciprocated…well…